Nothing says “go away” quite so well as an undersized bench and an oversized scowl.
My wife is still coaching me on not barking when I answer the phone or scowling when I open the door. I think she’s just aiming for the horizontal-lipped emoji effect for now (…baby steps! …baby steps!).
I have to thank Trish and Matthew Scott for introducing us to the Myers Briggs 16-factor Personality Profile early on in our marriage. It saved Heidi and I tons of stress as a couple (The Title of the Book they lent us says it all: “Please Understand Me – Abandoning the Pygmalion Project”).
The four poles of the test (Introversion vs Extraversion, Sensing vs Intuiting, Feeling vs Thinking and Judging versus Perceiving) are the basis for the 16 types.
I took the test again yesterday and my radical Judging (nothing to do with being judgmental, but to do with feeling restless until there is closure; a decision or judgment made) versus Perceiving (preferring non-closure, and delaying a decision in favour of ongong input, openness, and perception) has balanced out surprisingly.
However, I still scored A+ on introversion.
Introvert does not mean socially inept or unloving It just means we recharge with solitude and prefer a smaller circle of deeper friends.
In fact, if there’s a need I can assume the role of the live wire or life of the party, but irrespective of whether or not I had a lampshade on my head for half the night, like a true introvert, I leave a party deflated if I didn’t have at least one deep connection or conversation.
I tried to get a support and discussion group going for introverts but no one was interested in attending.
